Christmas memories

It's hard to remember to update this blog! And to think it's primarily about my mother who has Dementia and Alzheimers. Its her memory that's fading. Whatever.

It's Christmas 2012. My mom is still an active part of the family get-together. She can still interact with everybody. She doesn't remember everybody's name all the time, but she did pretty good this year. Her biggest concern was if I/she remembered to hand out the Christmas cards/money gifts to the 5 grandkids. I did remember, and that means she remembered.

She still eats good, can still laugh at things, though she takes my dry sense of humor to heart and thinks I'm serious when I'm just trying to be funny. She misses my stepdad who died 5 years ago. She says Christmas is the toughest time. I think most people share this emotion when the loss of a loved one is magnified.

It's all about family. Trying to remember to be "there" more often than I might like. I think most families are a bit dysfunctional in their own special way. Lots of stories are always shared about how this person does this, or that cousin did that, and how "I'll just figure out how to suck it up for a couple hours when we're over at __________ house. (Fill in the blank with the obnoxious family members). But when you're laying in that box (or urn) dead to this physical world, who do you think is going to be at your funeral? Probably the only people that matter: Your family. Accept it's too late to say you're sorry or wish you would have said "I love you" more, to your mother, father, spouse, child...

Christmas is full of memories and traditions. Savor the moments.

Another Day Gone By

Imagine not knowing what day it is?

When I go on vacation I really want to forget what day it is and just relax. Unfortunately I have to remember when it's time to pack and go back home. Now that sucks!

So many things we take for granted: Like waking up and knowing what day of the week it is, what month we're in, and the year. My mom is having a really hard time with that. Stage 4 Dementia. She has a big printed calendar on her kitchen counter...but she doesn't know what day it is when she looks at it.

So we bought her a digital clock that has a calendar feature; day/month/year. Just for today, she can look at it and know, not remember, what day today is. She puts an X on her printed calendar marking another day gone by and knowing that she is losing her memory.

It's Monday, October 22. I know that for sure because my computer calendar shows that. I guess it's right. The TV news told me that too. For the working world, Monday's suck. As fast as time goes by right now, Monday is great. I've got a second job interview this morning. It could be a really great Monday, October 22, 2012. Do you remember what you did last Monday? You probably have to go to your calendar to jog that memory....

Losing It

Many days pass. Today Mom called me and said "she doesn't want to lose her mind." What a sobering thought: Losing it. She works with a therapist to help her with cognitive issues. Simple things like word recognition, association, counting, memory. The things we all take for granted every day when we wake up and the wheels start to turn. We all seem to have days when it feels like we're losing it. It's a common phrase. Those bad days when everything is coming at us at full speed and our minds are on overload...and we forget a couple things, or misplace our keys, or just feel overwhelmed with life. And then, tomorrow comes.