Christmas memories

It's hard to remember to update this blog! And to think it's primarily about my mother who has Dementia and Alzheimers. Its her memory that's fading. Whatever.

It's Christmas 2012. My mom is still an active part of the family get-together. She can still interact with everybody. She doesn't remember everybody's name all the time, but she did pretty good this year. Her biggest concern was if I/she remembered to hand out the Christmas cards/money gifts to the 5 grandkids. I did remember, and that means she remembered.

She still eats good, can still laugh at things, though she takes my dry sense of humor to heart and thinks I'm serious when I'm just trying to be funny. She misses my stepdad who died 5 years ago. She says Christmas is the toughest time. I think most people share this emotion when the loss of a loved one is magnified.

It's all about family. Trying to remember to be "there" more often than I might like. I think most families are a bit dysfunctional in their own special way. Lots of stories are always shared about how this person does this, or that cousin did that, and how "I'll just figure out how to suck it up for a couple hours when we're over at __________ house. (Fill in the blank with the obnoxious family members). But when you're laying in that box (or urn) dead to this physical world, who do you think is going to be at your funeral? Probably the only people that matter: Your family. Accept it's too late to say you're sorry or wish you would have said "I love you" more, to your mother, father, spouse, child...

Christmas is full of memories and traditions. Savor the moments.